The lead singer for the Christian band Everyday Sunday has come out as gay. Everyone shout for joy and tell him how brave he is! You know what? You should. What he did was brave, but not for the reasons you probably think.
See, here’s the thing. Homosexuality is wrong. It just is. Plain and simple. It’s in black and white, spelled out in the Bible. Even Jesus himself commented on who should be in a marriage relationship. Don’t believe me? Look it up. (Matthew 19:5) It’s written right there in black and white (or red and white if your Bible highlights Jesus’ words). It’s reaffirmed multiple times that homosexuality is a sin.
So yes. What he did was brave, but for the wrong reasons. See, in this day and age we’re being taught that doing whatever you want to do is okay, as long as it feels right to you. We’re all about moral relativism. There is not absolute right and wrong any more. It’s all shades of gray, and that’s sad really.
What Trey Pearson could have done was shine a light to the world about Christians. He could have shown the world that we’re not perfect. That we all sin, because we do. If a Christian tells you that they don’t sin they’re a liar, and committing a sin at that very moment. We all struggle with things in our lives that take us away from God and our relationship to Him. That’s what sin is.
What could have happened in this situation would be that he comes out and tells the world that yes, he’s sinned, and has been since he was a teenager. That was when he realized he was attracted to men. He’s been lying to his family (his wife and children) for the past 8 years. He’s been trying to fight this sin on his own that whole time and it’s not working. He needs help.
See, admitting that you’re a sinner is the first step to getting help. He could announce that he’s apologized to his family and asked their forgiveness. That he realizes he can’t fight this fight alone and that they’re going to fight with him. To help him struggle past his sin. They will be praying together, seeking God’s help and guidance as they deal with this situation. He could ask his fans to be supportive of him, his family and the band, but that they will continue. He could use this situation to help others struggling with the same issues as him. Show them that there are people willing to help them as well.
Christians are sinners. We all know that. If we don’t then we’re kidding ourselves. There is not one person that goes into a church on Sunday that isn’t. The church isn’t for perfect people. The world likes to call Christians hypocrites because they say one thing, but do another. That couldn’t be further from the truth. We say the thing we’re striving to do and do our humanly best to achieve that goal. None of us will ever get there because we’re human and we screw up. Homosexuals should be welcome in any church on the planet because that’s where you go to learn the truth of God’s love and get redemption for our human failings.
Instead what’s he’s done is he’s asked the world to accept his sin. Let him be the man he wants to be, regardless of his actions. He’s gay. He’s going to live that way. You can’t have a relationship with God when you continue to actively and purposefully live in sin. You just can’t. Part of being a Christian is striving to live a sin free life. We know we can’t, but that’s what we should strive to do.
He’s doubling down on his sin. He’s embracing his sin. That’s what Christians can’t accept. To sin is wrong. It strains your relationship with God, with the people around you and with the rest of the world. As Christians we are called to be in the world, but not of the world. We are supposed to separate ourselves from the things that the world tells us it’s okay to do. Want to have sex outside marriage? Okay. Want to lie, cheat and steal your way to the top? Sure. Whatever you want to do, as long as you think it’s okay and it doesn’t hurt anyone else. That’s fine. As Christians we should not accept that way of thinking.
I’ve said many times that I think homosexuals should have the right to get married, and I believe that. They should. No government on the planet should tell anyone what they can and can’t do in the privacy of their own homes. You cannot and should not legislate morality. As long as you’re not actively harming another person, or restricting their liberty there should be no law against it. However, just because something is legal doesn’t mean it’s right and doesn’t mean you should do it. That’s what we have to realize.
Churches should embrace homosexuals. They should not shun them and seclude them from their worship services. They’re sinners just like every other Christian on the planet. Embrace them, but don’t embrace their sin.
People always point to Matthew 7:1 and say “Judge not, lest ye be judged,” and tell us that we have no business telling people that what they’re doing is wrong. If you read further that verse talks about us, as Christians, having as many problems as the people we’re ‘judging’. Don’t call that person out and tell them they’re wrong when you have as many, if not more, sins yourself.
However, 2 Timothy 2:23-26 shows us that we are to gently correct our brothers and show them when they do wrong so that they may return to God and repent and escape the Devil. We have a duty as Christians to tell our fellow man the truth and show them the correct way to live. You have to do it in a loving manner. You start throwing around that pointer finger and telling people they’re going to Hell and they’re not going to listen to you, but you do have a duty to point them towards the truth.
As Christians we should embrace those who show us that they’re not perfect. We’re all human beings and we need more famous Christians to show the world that we’re not perfect. We don’t need to condemn those singers, actors, politicians or whoever that aren’t perfect, but we do need to let them know that we don’t approve of sinful behavior. We should embrace artists who tell the world that we need God’s love, guidance, correction and teaching. We need Christian artists who are willing to sing about their sin and show the world that they’re working to be better. We should all be striving to be better.
So yes, what Trey Pearson did was brave, but for the wrong reasons.